The meaning of life
This question has been popping up in my head every now and then. Luckily, I do not need to find the answer of this question. Why? Because the meaning of life is subjective. Every human being in this world has had their own share of experiences. Can you imagine two people with the exact same life? Amazing how out of 7 billion of them there is no repeated story. Then, if that is the case, how can we expect to get the meaning of life by asking about it or by imitating what other people have done? However, a new question opens up: how can I find my personal meaning for life? Let’s dive deep into this topic.
Before trying to solve this question, we need to dig further into ourselves and ask: what do I consider valuable in life: is it love? is it money? is it fame or popularity? To answer this initial question, we need to address what are our core values. I used to define values in a lousy way. What were my previous values:
- What people think of me as a person
- What my family considers I should do in the future
- What my friends tell me to do
- How much money do I have and earn
- How popular I am among my friends and strangers
What do all of these things have in common? That they are important….well not really. All of these things are connected with how other human beings perceive us. If this is the case, our values would be attached to others. How would it feel to live a life that is always judged by the rest and out of our own control. I read this somewhere, and it rings my head every time: no matter if you do everything perfectly and impeccable, there will always be people that dislike what you do. Since this holds true, no matter what you do, people pleasing will lead you to nothing and, instead, it will converge into anxiousness.
Your core values
We just talked about values that could lead to an unsatisfied life. Thus, you might be wondering what are the right values? Is there such a thing as “right” values? In reality, like in most things in life, this list is subjective. Speaking of that, here is the following list:
These are what I consider my current personal core values. I mentioned current because it takes going through some experiences and events in life to unlearn and learn things that updates your value chart. Although in many stages in life these could be more relevant than in others, I feel more genuine whenever I consider these in my personal decisions. However, this does not mean that you as a reader have to follow this exact list. Are you wondering what are your core values? Alright, there is this search tool called Google, it is quite popular. Go there and search for a list of common personal values and create your own short list of values. After doing that you will be more in sync with your inner self and what do you value in life.
OK, so now that we know our core values, what’s next? Well, we already went through the most difficult part. You may wonder why? Since our worth is tied to our experiences and beliefs, these are closely connected to what we consider valuable in life. If you have values that are connected with other people’s perspective then as a consequence your worth will also be tied to these people. That sounds awful, right? Well, once we know what
Your personal legend